: holding yourself back is bad because it leads to a lot of stress. **however**, giving in to those emotions wires your brain to keep doing it. whenever you do an action, your brain creates conections that reinforces those actions. this means that the more you rage, the harder it gets to hold yourlsef back in the future. on the other hand, if you try to stay calm, you will get better at staying calm. what you should try to do is to somehow controll yourself, but also find a way to release the stress in a non harmfull way.
Unfortunately, that is not something I can exactly control. Usually, I try to be friendly and cheerful (even when my team is losing but everyone really gives out their best) and do my best to help everyone. But sometimes, like when someone is inting or feeding really bad (0/10 or so or when I tell them to not come on my lane in that moment cause I am low hp/mana/both, but they do not listen or care and still come and we both end up dying cause I still go in because I can't let him die without at least trying to help him) I can't just keep calm and say to him everything that passes through my head in that moment.
Mcgalakar (EUNE)
: Then maybe you should look for professional help? Threatening someone that you would kill him in real life is a way worse thing than being toxic in any computer game.
I talked to a psychologist and she told me that I have strong social anxiety and my anger problems are directly related to this.
Neonchan (EUW)
: Just keep on flaming, it's not punished anyway
Even if it was not punished, I still wouldn't want to keep on flaming, just because I can imagine how the others feel when I say horrible things to them and start feeling guilty after the game ends.
: ***
I am not like that, most of the time I am as friendly as I can or at least try, but when I lose control, I just lose my mind and do whatever my "inner raging me" finds in that moment suitable. Like I have strong social anxiety and 95% of the time I only go out with my friends which I have trust in, but sometimes I am "forced" to meet new people. I am the silent type, so I will mostly only watch and listen to them, but when someone is too much of an a*s or talkes too much s**t, I can't cope with it and start yelling I will just kill them or even worse, my brain totally gets a black-out, and I just start to beat him. In this state I can't feel pain, or at least I think so (the worst I got in this fights was a broken nose and didn't feel anything) and proceed to beat them until they are on the ground or a large number of people are holding me (I am a kinda small guy, I have like 1,70 and 65 kilos). But this is not the point of this post, I wrote this in behalf of all the players like me, who are toxic even if they don't actually want to be, hoping that Riot will see this and at least consider adding the out of game chat disable option.
Febos (EUW)
: > [{quoted}](name=karolmo,realm=EUW,application-id=NzaqEm3e,discussion-id=nv0dVBtF,comment-id=0001,timestamp=2017-04-14T23:59:44.292+0000) > > I honestly don't know why we don't have a "disable chat" button. Every game has it. How is that any different from unbinding the key or dragging the chat out of view? You'd just turn it on again. People who say "I can't control myself" are either lying or have psychological issues. If you say you "can't control yourself", but you don't have any mental problems, then you are just making excuses for your toxic behaviour.
It is different because the disable chat button should be OUT OF GAME, so when you enter the actual game, excepting champ select, you can't write anything at all. And I admit that I may have some mental issues because when I get too nervous I just can't think properly and I enter "rage mode", even if it is in League or RL.
: "I can't control myself" is the most widely self-told lie.
I really can't, even if I know that many people can't understand this. Even IRL, when someone makes me nervous, I threaten him that I will kill him, or even beat him if I lose control of myself, so...
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